Five motivational mindful steps to own it. Take full control of life.

Five motivational mindful steps to own it. Take full control of life.

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May, 2020

Poetry Lenses

Opening the blinds.

Today is a big day. I am opening the blinds for my soul so that I can see clearly and feel life inside and outside. I am detaching myself from opinions and judgements. I no more want to drag memorise from past to hold them responsible for my present and blame them for a distorted future.

Today I own it. I am taking full responsibility for my life. I want to bring my dreams into reality and today I untie myself with my memories and take things under my control for the life I have envisioned.

HOW?

Simply by understanding, accepting and practising four basic truths.

  1. My attention is my choice:

Attention is a matter of choice. It’s up to me where I allow it to go. Nothing in this universe can take my attention without my consent whether it’s a bad experience or an embarrassed one. From now onwards I will treat my attention as my currency and will invest it carefully. Every time I have to pay attention to something I will question myself is it necessary and valuable.

Every time a person demands my attention I will expect them to earn it and will never shower it on them if they are going to waste it. I have one life and thanks to the outbreak of Covid19 I have no idea how much I am left with so I don’t want to waste even a single second on a thing or a person that’s not going to use it productively. If it sounds selfish well the reply is my life belongs to me and my loved ones and instead of spending it with them why would I waste it on someone who doesn’t even value it? So, I vow to spend it wisely.

I will pay attention only and only to the things that will help me to grow as a better human and will bring happiness and peace to my family. Whenever I will fail to practice it I will read this blog again and again until my mindset comes back to empowerment and practice mindfulness for the rest of my life.

      2.  The present moment is the only reality.

Next, I vow to stop living in the past. I am done beating the drum of why me? Why did this happen? Why they tormented? They were bulling, I failed, I am not enough. Yes, I am done. This stops right here. I will not allow my memories to ruin my present.

At this moment those people, those worries, fears are not here. Right now I am safe, at peace and with my best self and I don’t have to memories what they said or meant because I am the best candidate for this situation. Despite all those storms I made it so far and I am still not giving up hence, I am the best and the most successful version of myself.

So I will no more talk about painful past and embarrassing experiences and harass myself but will talk about my accomplishments and will give myself credit for being myself and taking a stand for myself with a hope for a better future. But I will not push my happiness in future.

I have a habit of believing that in future when this or that will happen then I will be happy, satisfied and peaceful with myself. No, I am happy, satisfied and peaceful right now. I am no more letting my freedom be dependent on future days and I am not waiting to be happy in the coming days.

In present lies everything so I am going to do things I love at this given moment. I will take all the necessary steps with whatever sources I have to build the life I want in the present moment. I will feel thankful for what I have and will focus on what I want not on what I don’t want. From now on I will live in present, not in past or future.

Poetry Lenses

“I don’t want to rush into life. I want to live it one day at a time”

                                                               Nisha

3. One day at a time:

I don’t have to worry about the whole year. How am I going to build it? What will I do? When will it happen? How much more time? I will take one day at a time. I will start with one step, one blog every week. A little research, little editing a bit designing and lots of love with a strong intention will help me walk through the year.

I just have to deal one day at a time and I will make it to the whole year and so can you the one reading this. Forts are not built in a day one stone at a time but you have to start right now. You can’t build your dream in a day but one day at a time will for sure make it happen.

4. Stick to the plan:

Now that I have thought about the whole thing with an open mind and have made my decision all I have to do is to stick to the plan. I will not change my direction as I know now with the experience that it doesn’t take me anywhere but I end up circling on the same road and I don’t want to repeat the same mistake.

Sometimes I won’t have a topic, search for it. Sometimes I won’t believe in myself, go back read old blogs and give yourself credit and make a list of your achievements and once I am recharged I will get back to the schedule.

What do you do when you are procrastinating? Do you talk to someone or you to acknowledge your previous achievements like me?

I will remind myself that I have the vision to keep up with. I am not there yet but when I will be I will experience what being a visionary feels like. I will remind myself that I will be a poet loved by people and I have to work for this love and I cannot let my weaknesses stop me plus love doesn’t comes easy way so I have to work no matter what.

5. Be kind towards self:

I will be tough on myself but I won’t be mean. I will never compare my personal or professional growth with others. As I understand life is not a competition but a creation so I will focus on creativity instead of comparison. Everyone has their own pace of learning what comes for them in a day may not come for me but that doesn’t mean it will never come. I have my journey and I have to learn my lessons that will be different from others and I accept it.

I will be kind to my failures and will respect my hard work. I will allow myself a little break and couple of sneak outs but after a couple of them I will give myself double assignments to mend my behaviour but I will also reward myself after finishing my task honestly.

I own it. It starts with taking responsibility for my life and keeping my attention under my control then it leads to making present my priority taking one day at a time and sticking to the plan executing everything as planned but also being kind with myself acknowledging my hard work giving credit to my progressive and successful best version of self.

 

 

Her Self Poetry E-book available at amazon

Her Self opening the blinds is a collection of poetry about the female spirit that raises her voice to say no. It’s about when a woman stops waiting for someone to save her but becomes her own saviour. It’s about her choice to express her suppressed self. Her self throws light on the transition of a girl going through brutal judgments, pain, mental abuse, loss and identity crisis to a confident woman who knows to take control and
also knows to control herself.

Mindful Talk

Why are you stuck with a fear mindset? 

MOTIVATION

Start over and reinvent life and the essential self.

MINDFULNESS

2020 it’s time to move on from stress.

Start over and reinvent life and the essential self. Mindful living.

Start over and reinvent life and the essential self. Mindful living.

Sometimes I wish I could erase the current reality. I wish there was a space to escape where I could live the way I want, do what I like and behave the way I really am. But life is not something written with a pencil that can be erased in no time.

You know these days everyone is trying to work on their immunity by doing yoga and eating healthy and also doing meditation trying to fight Covid19 including me. Before this only bunch of people were doing these activities and rest were busy taking their bodies for granted but now everyone is aiming high. Doctors, scientist and every single person is hopeful for they can deal with this disease. It’s so interesting that we humans think that the change in lifestyle, shut down restrictions and having a vaccine can defeat this virus and sure it will. But how amazing is this that we are not ready to believe that the same lifestyle changes and few creative and disciplined actions can change the entire course of our lives as well and we can actually, have the life we always dreamed of.

You see you cannot rewrite what has come into existence whether it’s a heartbreak, failure or sickness but what is coming up can be monitored and can be created exactly the way you want it. What do you think?

Well, I think first you must shut down overthinking department running in your head and then the game is on. You can 100% change your circumstances and reinvent yourself and your life. I have tried this I am still working on it but I can tell you 30 to 40% of reinvention has been already done in my life.

Well, the first step I took is to stop my mind from analysis paralysisYou have to stop overthinking and killing your vibe. I do it when I am scared of starting over.

For instance, you want to start a YouTube channel and you are like oh my, God who is going to watch it, I don’t have the proper equipment. What would they say? I can’t come in front of the camera there is no proper lighting. There are few ways to stop thinking what would they say you can check my other blog.

Stop it, block it. Block the very first thought of fear and negativity and go do something else to distract your mind so that negativity doesn’t get a chance to spread itself in your brain. Come back after an hour and just record the first video and release it even if it is weird. Remember you didn’t learn to make assignments at the very first attempt.

It took me a while to become a blogger. I deleted my blogs several times before publishing them and today I am here. You have to keep doing things you like and fear at the same time. Listen or read people who have made in your field to make a decision and keep listening until your brain is convinced to hustle and hustle hard.

Second, decide what you want to reinvent in your life a relationship, talent, your attitude, your lifestyle, income or business and go after it even if you have to work like hell. Here is the catch make up your mind, think thoroughly and clear the fog in your brain. Choose one way only one way. Don’t go two ways when you are double mind there is a high possibility to fail and this is going to backfire. Choose one field, aim, or habit at a time and follow it. Treat your mind like a child the moment it tries to distract you drag it back and finish what you started.

 

Break your habits of feeling I am not good enough, I don’t deserve it, she/he is better than me or feeling lazy, not making those essential calls. Pull yourself together and if needed force yourself to complete the task. Do some affirmations, listen to encouraging people, go mindful, transform your lifestyle, stop listening to visionless people, make ambitiously wise friends. Do not browse internet mindlessly find good mentors for yourself on this platform.

Girl, give it a shot and see what you are made of. Want to be a model post few pictures on Instagram. Want to be a speaker start a podcast. This is a world of information use the Internet wisely. Things have changed now you don’t have to go to these big industries they will come to you. I am not devaluing these industries but if they reject you their loss. You have a spark and you will make it and these big companies will come crawling to you but by that time you would have already accomplished yourself. So, stop waiting for the right time and just do it.

You have to understand that reinvention won’t happen in a day it’s going to be a continues practice where you will fail many times only to win. Don’t give up after practising a couple of days. Push yourself even if you are pissed when things are not getting anywhere. A woman going through labour doesn’t give up in the middle the pain but bears it until life inside her comes out to breathe. Yes, this aim of yours is your baby and you have to push to give it life.

 

Next, Act on what you decided. Don’t pay attention to small-minded people, or the ones who make fun of you because mark my words one day their kids will follow you on Instagram. Believe me, it will get ugly they will bully you for being you especially during social gatherings but trust me when you finish and your actions are speaking out loud they will be shut and you will be admired and loved by the same people but remember a diva neither get bothered by criticism nor does she lose her balance with appreciation. 

Hence to reinvent your life stop overthinking no matter what. Second, decide what you want to reinvent. Third break your habits that have been stopping you for so long. Fourth keep pushing, pursuing no matter whatever it takes. And finally, act on your decision with or without anyone.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

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Print – Poetry by Lord Byron

Print – Poetry by Lord Byron

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Awaits

Awaits

“She couldn’t untie the strings
so she started swinging on them.”
Awaits is a short, intriguing, mysterious romantic drama. It’s a small collection of one act three plays and as a bonus with each play comes one poem to intensify the effect of the romance.
1. Sanity-                    … they keep saying only to give you fake hope. I wish i never believed them… what if they have killed him too…
                                                 …no…no he promised…he will come back. What if history once again repeats itself…
2. You are awake-     Every year Amanda celebrates her marriage as a festival but this year shadows from past are avenging her for something.                                        Will love conquer all?
3. Inside You-            It happened once.
                                  Once it did
                                  and as it did
                                                  …Anne only if you stop calculating my presence and absence you will realize I am looking at you through his eyes…
Her Self

Her Self

Her ‘Self’ opening the blinds by Nisha Thakur is a collection of poetry. It is about a female spirit that raises her voice to say no. Poems focus on a phase in a woman’s life where she stops waiting for someone to save her but becomes her own saviour.

It’s about her choice to express her suppressed self. Her ‘self’ brings in light the transition of a girl going through brutal judgments, heartbreak, pain, mental abuse, loss, and identity crisis to a confident woman who knows to take control and also knows to control herself.
2020 it is time to move on from stress.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

Just when after cleaning my whole home I was trying to feel that now my family is safe I slipped from my stairs and hurt myself badly and my head was spinning. It was during this moment of a state of half-consciousness  I felt I may not die of the virus but may be of something else so what am I doing? I can’t be a doctor and treat this disease but I can follow the instructions and I am doing my best plus I can’t make the medicine but I can stay home. And I have done my part so why am I allowing my life to be stopped. Why am I losing my balance? 

This is it I am done playing the fear I don’t know I am going to die after twenty years or twenty days but I am not dying before death. Hence I take a vow to live every single moment even when my brain is not listening to me. I will drag it like a child back to my dreams and finish it. If I have to die I will die trying not fearing. So I promise no matter how exhausted I am I will follow every single instruction given by the medical department for my family and myself and as a writer, I will write until my last breath. I will write poetry until my fingers melt and my brain calls for final shut down. I am sharing this with you because we all are on the same page right now. It took me a pandemic to live life to the fullest. It convinced me to believe in myself, and go for my dreams even if it’s for a month. 

Please if you are reading this go make that YouTube channel, write that book, go get started with that project because this time is never coming back. This is the time to make it happen and I am telling you the truth while I am writing this I am feeling this human determination will make the pandemic bow down to humanity.

 Trust me if this pandemic was not able to make you start and forget caring about what would they say I don’t know what will.

 My E-Book Poetry Is Now Available.

Available At Amazon

Her Self

Opening the blinds.

Her ‘Self’ is a collection of poetry about the female spirit that raises her voice to say no. It’s about when a woman stops waiting for someone to save her but becomes her own saviour. It’s about her choice to express her suppressed self. Her ‘self’ throws light on the transition of a girl going through brutal judgments, pain, mental abuse, loss and identity crisis to a confident woman who knows to take control and also knows to control herself.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

Just when after cleaning my whole home I was trying to feel that now my family is safe I slipped from my stairs and hurt myself badly and my head was spinning. It was during this moment of a state of half-consciousness  I felt I may not die of the virus but may be of...

A note of mindfulness to isolation.

A note of mindfulness to isolation.

Dear isolation, You and I have lived with each other for years but I have never seen you so loud, so angry and in such a mess. I don't remember you being so anxious. I wonder what’s wrong, did I upset you or did I upset you? Why won’t you talk to me, please tell me?...

Writings for mindfulness

Writings for mindfulness

This is so interesting that past and present cannot be used in one sentence to keep Grammar happy but no one cares about the errors we do in our daily lives by allowing past to interfere with our present letting it ruin the peace of our mind.  Did it ever occur to you...

Go all the way by Charles Bukowski.

Go all the way by Charles Bukowski.

If you are going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could...

The Road Not Taken By Robert Frost

The Road Not Taken By Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it...

Why are you stuck with a fear mindset? Mindfulness talk.

Why are you stuck with a fear mindset? Mindfulness talk.

 

Do you know you can enter someone’s brain and live there for a long time?  Do you know you can live their life, enjoy their happiness, feel their sadness and inhale their fears? All you have to do is shut down your brain absolutely and listen and pay attention to their thoughts, beliefs and fears and accept and follow every pattern of their emotions without any resistance. But certainly, it’s not easy because you have to suppress your voice and kill your analysing skills and let your experience die of neglect. You have to bound yourself to their evaluations and act according to their mindsets and finally, you are living their life not yours. You are no more you but you are a mere reflection of the brain you are acting according to.

This is how you reached so far and now you are quitting that one thing that means the world to you. This is the answer to what is my fault? How did I get here? You are quitting not because you are scared but because they are. You are not wrong but they are monitoring everything you think, believe and act and you are letting them. You are providing them way too much importance at the cost of your experiences and knowledge. You forgot the difference between guiding and monitoring. Your smile should be a result of your feelings, not of someone else. Your failure and success should be your hard work, not somebody’s mindset. You should be a reflection of your values instead of an imitation of somebody’s art of appropriation. Be in love because you are feeling it not because they are directing you.

But the good news is that you have been pushed to an extent that now finally human inside you is resisting. And you are experiencing a shift realising your brain is not dead it’s under control. Wake up you are human act like one. There is a reason we all are given separate brains if one person was supposed to decide for all only one out four would be given brain. How many years you need more to understand you are separate being and you have to write your own story of fears and failures.  

It’s time to step out of their minds and break this pattern of identity crisis and start your journey

 My E-Book Poetry Is Now Available.

Available At Amazon

Her Self

Opening the blinds.

Her ‘Self’ is a collection of poetry about the female spirit that raises her voice to say no. It’s about when a woman stops waiting for someone to save her but becomes her own saviour. It’s about her choice to express her suppressed self. Her ‘self’ throws light on the transition of a girl going through brutal judgments, pain, mental abuse, loss and identity crisis to a confident woman who knows to take control and also knows to control herself.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

2020 it is time to move on from stress.

Just when after cleaning my whole home I was trying to feel that now my family is safe I slipped from my stairs and hurt myself badly and my head was spinning. It was during this moment of a state of half-consciousness  I felt I may not die of the virus but may be of...

A note of mindfulness to isolation.

A note of mindfulness to isolation.

Dear isolation, You and I have lived with each other for years but I have never seen you so loud, so angry and in such a mess. I don't remember you being so anxious. I wonder what’s wrong, did I upset you or did I upset you? Why won’t you talk to me, please tell me?...

Writings for mindfulness

Writings for mindfulness

This is so interesting that past and present cannot be used in one sentence to keep Grammar happy but no one cares about the errors we do in our daily lives by allowing past to interfere with our present letting it ruin the peace of our mind.  Did it ever occur to you...

Go all the way by Charles Bukowski.

Go all the way by Charles Bukowski.

If you are going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could...

The Road Not Taken By Robert Frost

The Road Not Taken By Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it...

A note of mindfulness to isolation.

A note of mindfulness to isolation.

Dear isolation,

You and I have lived with each other for years but I have never seen you so loud, so angry and in such a mess. I don’t remember you being so anxious. I wonder what’s wrong, did I upset you or did I upset you? Why won’t you talk to me, please tell me? Don’t shun me like this at least give me a chance. I am here to listen to your silence just the way you are always here for me to listen to my thoughts.

Oh! Thoughts. Gosh! You heard my thoughts. Didn’t you? No, please let me explain I didn’t mean to hurt you. Oh my God please don’t think I was despising you. I was not. I…I… I was scared. I was worried and I panicked. I was trapped into my insecurities of immunity experiencing a strange transformation from being a human to a rat living in a hole away from fellow human contact. I was overwhelmed, all my beliefs were shaken so much so that I failed to notice that it’s not for the first time I am lonely. This is the way I have always been like. And now that I think about it I was lonely even when I was standing in a crowd of people who claimed to know me. I was lonely when I was understood and misunderstood when I was taken or forsaken. I have been lonely in this world and inside myself till the time I was dependent on what was outside me but the moment, I bumped into you things changed and so did I. Isolation, it’s you who taught me to listen to the music of silence. With you, I was set free from the need to say or clarify. With you, I understood the comfort of nothing to judge and no obligation to be judged. Because of you, I got rid of the noises recorded in my head with the remote control in the hands that were not mine. With you, I stepped into consciousness learning the art of unlearning and making a journey from loneliness to solitude. But sometimes outside noises are so loud that I lose my balance and I turn my back towards you. I am really sorry but trust me I didn’t mean to. So Dear isolation don’t be upset. I am still exploring this new state of being and I can’t promise I will not fall again but I promise I will not stop trying to bring back my consciousness to what I believe not what I am convinced to believe.

 

 My E-Book Poetry Is Now Available.

Available At Amazon

Her Self

Opening the blinds.

Her ‘Self’ is a collection of poetry about the female spirit that raises her voice to say no. It’s about when a woman stops waiting for someone to save her but becomes her own saviour. It’s about her choice to express her suppressed self. Her ‘self’ throws light on the transition of a girl going through brutal judgments, pain, mental abuse, loss and identity crisis to a confident woman who knows to take control and also knows to control herself.

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