Can you dare to keep up with your self worth? An inspirational personal challenge.

Can you dare to keep up with your self worth? An inspirational personal challenge.

27

July, 2020

Opening the blinds.

 

In the middle of the pandemic,

in the middle of this madness of uncertainty,

when everyone is losing faith,

fearing loss of life,

fearing a huge economic crisis.

When all hopes are gone and you are being slapped by one failure after other.

When you have lost in the final round and everyone treats you like an animal in a zoo.

Can you?

Can you?

DARE TO START AGAIN?

Your back is crushed and the heart is full of pain and not even one person is ready to give you a hand.

Can you?

DARE TO MAKE A COMEBACK?

Can you dare to believe in yourself again?

Can you dare to reinvent yourself?

Can you bet on yourself one more time?

Can you dare to say:

I am fine.

I just need a moment.

I am conscious of myself.

I need to pull myself together.

I can’t give up now.

I can’t let all my hard work go waste.

I have to push.

I can’t afford to be tired.

I have given everything to this I cannot go back now.

I can fix this.

I can turn things around.

I can create an opportunity.

I can get this done.

I can rebuild my investment.

Of course, I can.

Why can’t I?

I am emotionally intelligent.

I am the in-charge of my consent.

I can protect my boundaries and people between them.

I can bring life back to track.

I believe myself.

2020 is still my year.

I am not letting anything take this away from me.

I will accomplish what I want to.

I will not discount my self-respect.

I am still confident.

Things will not get normal but will get better than normal.

I will make them better.

I am ready with my best shot.

I can and I will.

WILL YOU DARE?

WILL YOU DARE TO TAKE THIS PERSONAL CHALLENGE?

OR WILL CHOOSE TO PROVE PEOPLE TREATING YOU LIKE AN ANIMAL IN A ZOO RIGHT?

Will you prove them right that you are delusional?

Will you provide them with a licence to stop and bully all those people who like you are aiming high?

Will you let them walk over your dreams and abuse your vision for the rest of your life?

Will you give control to the people who never believed in you, disrespected you and harassed your loved ones for believing in you?

OR will you DARE to take control back and bet on yourself to push it until your last breath and take chance to succeed even if it is one per cent and make your dear ones proud?

Will you dare to do anything and everything to make your vision come true even if you have to stay alone and suffer for years?

Will you dare to count on your soul one more time while everyone is laughing at you?

 WILL YOU DARE TO KEEP UP WITH YOUR SELFWORTH?

 

 

Her Self

Poetry Book

Available at Amazon

Awaits

Romantic Drama Available at Amazon

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

3 August, 2020Opening the blinds.You didn’t give up. You were just tired. Tired of waiting. One season that never ends. But you know every season has a timeline. So no matter how annoying and hopeless it sounds right now the truth is it shall pass too. But when? When?...

When you are done you are home. Self-awareness and acknowledgement.

When you are done you are home. Self-awareness and acknowledgement.

20

July, 2020

Opening the blinds.

When you are done you are home.

When you stop saying:

Let me explain.

Listen to me once.

I didn’t do it.

I was just trying to…

And you allow them to carry on with there assumptions. You are done and you are home.

When you stop seeking yes for everything.

Do I look good?

Do you think I gained weight?

Do you think it’s going to work?

Do you think I can…

You are done and you are home.

When lack of company doesn’t bother you and isolation is not loneliness but solitude.

When their comments don’t bother you.

When you start processing your thoughts.

When you can keep your head high while walking through rejections.

When you dare to say no while you are being compelled to say yes and you have no regrets.

You are done and you are home.

When you stop clarifying,

begging,

pleasing someone to stay, understand and give you a chance.

When you stop searching for a home in people and seek it within you are done and you are at home.

When you embrace the way you look.

When you start addressing your choices as your decisions.

When failing is a stepping stone not a matter of shame.

When you dare to move on from your guilt.

When you are looking for respect instead of attention.

When you have learnt to live in present without pining for the past and fearing future.

When you are over the theories of you complete me or I complete you.

When you stop disturbing the pattern of life and start believing in the process and respect the timing.

YOU ARE DONE AND YOU ARE HOME.

Her Self

Poetry Book

Available at Amazon

Awaits

Romantic Drama Available at Amazon

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

3 August, 2020Opening the blinds.You didn’t give up. You were just tired. Tired of waiting. One season that never ends. But you know every season has a timeline. So no matter how annoying and hopeless it sounds right now the truth is it shall pass too. But when? When?...

Love is romantic only sometimes most of the times it’s mundane. Crazy relationship

Love is romantic only sometimes most of the times it’s mundane. Crazy relationship

13

July, 2020

Opening the blinds.

Every morning you have to wake up next to this person. He looks miserable and you are no better either. You have to make breakfast and its definitely not muffins but something nutritious which your kids won’t like. Your home is a mess and your kids are not willing to finish their homework and somehow you drag yourself to work where your boss is not even human and life goes on.

Yes, it still does. You want to take a break but you can’t because your friend is getting married and she wants you to help find her dream and a perfect wedding dress and finally when you find one it’s not available. After babysitting your crying friend for whom unavailability of the dress is the end of the world you rush back home where your kids are waiting for you with lipstick all over their faces blaming each other.

You are angry and want to scream but you manage to act patient. It was a long day but it’s not over yet. Well, the eldest child of the family (husband) is back who cannot keep things on the right place and you cannot stop correcting him. Although, you are aware of the fact that argument won’t help but you argue with him anyways and you don’t forget to mention that kids have not seen their grandparents from last six months and in his defense, he has been extremely busy. Oops, he made a wrong move and now it’s a mess. Rolling in the bed you are thinking why did I marry this absent mind idiot who cannot even remember his own sister’s birthday. What did I do to deserve this? I am like his personal assistant and I am not even paid.

But your daily schedule brings you back on your feet until you receive a call. Your father wants you to come immediately because the mother is sick and her condition is critical. You lose your balance and the absent mind idiot leaves everything in the middle and drives the whole family to your parents and argues with the doctor when he says its not in his hands now.

Love is romantic but only sometimes most of the times it’s mundane.

You won’t go to a candlelight dinner every week. Maybe he will forget the anniversary, you will make a big deal out of everything. He will be annoying and you will be the irritating one. As far as kids are concerned they are meant to get on your nerves. You will probably never get quality time with each other but you will make it as two of you will be there for each other for better and for worse.

Your smile says the rest.

 

 

Her Self

Poetry Book

Available at Amazon

Awaits

Romantic Drama Available at Amazon

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

3 August, 2020Opening the blinds.You didn’t give up. You were just tired. Tired of waiting. One season that never ends. But you know every season has a timeline. So no matter how annoying and hopeless it sounds right now the truth is it shall pass too. But when? When?...

Dear self, message your self needs to hear. Inspirational Living.

Dear self, message your self needs to hear. Inspirational Living.

6

July, 2020

Opening the blinds.

Dear self,

I know the world can be a crazy place and you are scared and confused. I know just when you pull yourself together something happens that brings you back to the point you started from. The moment you train your brain and think you are in control life throws something in your face making you question what place do have in this Universe. And if it chooses to defeat you what possibly you can do. After all, you are only human.

I have to say something really important to you. I never said this before but it’s time to let you know. It may sound a bit weird but believe me whatever I am about to say I mean it.

Dear self,

I want you to know that I am proud of you.

I am proud of you for being you.

I am proud of you for choosing to be you and not someone else even when you were manipulated and forced to do so.

I am so proud of you for making the choices you made. I am proud of you for taking a stand for those choices even when everyone was standing against you.

I am proud of you for keeping your standards high and maintaining those standards without depending on someone else.

I am proud of you for finding yourself and for working hard to be your best self.

I am extremely proud of you for analysing before accepting anything as reality or the truth.

I am proud of you for rising high without being disconnected with your roots.

I am proud of you for believing in yourself.

I am proud of you for blocking naysayers, bullies, and shallow minds from blocking your creativity.

I am proud of you for choosing friends carefully.

I am proud of you for hanging out with ambitious people with positive mindsets and allowing your mind to soak the positive vibes.

I am proud of for being courageous to go by your intuition and for living intentionally.

I am proud of you for educating yourself and testing your potential.

I am proud of you for trying even when you were terrified to fail.

I am proud of you for making mistakes.

I am proud of you for failing and starting it all over again.

I am proud of you for not giving up on yourself when everyone else had.

I am proud of you to keep pursuing even when you were on your knees.

I am proud of you for being there for yourself for better and for worse.

I am proud of you for dreaming.

I am proud of for being patient and watering your beliefs.

I am proud of you for being positive and spreading encouragement and supporting fellow women.

I am proud of you for not letting your voice be suppressed by society and patriarchy.

I am proud of you for not looking for approval, happiness and security outside you.

I am proud of you for playing by your own rules.

I am proud of you for not wanting and waiting for your life to be fixed by someone else.

I am proud of you to choose to be a queen than to be a princess.

I am proud of you for not letting yourself get distracted.

For not letting judgements, stress and trauma get into your head.

I am proud of you for taking the risk.

I am so proud of you for seeking respect than attention.

I am proud of you.

 

 

Her Self

Poetry Book

Available at Amazon

Awaits

Romantic Drama Available at Amazon

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

3 August, 2020Opening the blinds.You didn’t give up. You were just tired. Tired of waiting. One season that never ends. But you know every season has a timeline. So no matter how annoying and hopeless it sounds right now the truth is it shall pass too. But when? When?...

Knowledge can be a blessing and a curse at the same time. Mindfulness

Knowledge can be a blessing and a curse at the same time. Mindfulness

29

June, 2020

Opening the blinds.

When I was a kid I wanted to be a dancer and I was. Then I wanted to be a writer and yes I was. I wanted to draw and the next thing I know I was an artist. But as I grew up I can’t even draw a straight line without a scale because I know It’s not straight.

I cannot start a business because I know I lack experience and I won’t even try because I know I will fail but how do I know?

I know because I have learnt about the pros and cons, consulted too many people and researched to an extent that now I am scared to start.

Knowledge is a blessing and a curse at the same time.

It was fine until I was researching for how to’s but now that I have killed it I am stuck in the midst of should I or should I not?

 

“Knowledge is a blessing and a curse at the same time. And the curse can be undone if you allow it to bless you.”

Her Self

Opening the blinds.

Poetry Book Available At Amazon.

Usually, once the research is done one is supposed to start. But no you won’t and why is that?

You see once you come across the stories of someone else mistakes or failures you end up counting your failures. Next, you start exaggerating your weaknesses then you start imagining you don’t only lack experience but you are behind and the comparison makes it worse. And now the momentum has begun one thought leads to others and you are stuck here for months if not for years.

This is what knowledge does when you keep going back to the same book without realizing that no matter how many time you check facts are now going to change. Yes, freelancing is not easy, you won’t get the assignment on the first day. You have to keep bidding for days.

Yes, your book may take years to sell, you may not get that dream job in a couple of months but if stop applying you will never get it.

Awaits

Romantic Drama Available At Amazon.

You want to build a brand but you are terrified to start. Well, you have to start. This is the only magic word that is going to change your life nothing else ever will.

Yes, COVID 19 is not going any time soon and vaccine won’t come, cases won’t decrease, life won’t come back to normal by watching the news all day long.

You have to learn the art of switching off the buttons.

Switch off your phone and stop clarifying what and hows of your life to people. Switch off the T.V and get back to work. Stop watching how-to on YouTube and start the process of trial and error.

Trial and error are what will get you out of ruts. And this is what will make knowledge a blessing otherwise it will be a curse you will never be able to undo.

Stop researching successful stories, stop looking for inspiration, forget about branding, forget about playing perfect, and most importantly stop thinking what would they say just START.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

3 August, 2020Opening the blinds.You didn’t give up. You were just tired. Tired of waiting. One season that never ends. But you know every season has a timeline. So no matter how annoying and hopeless it sounds right now the truth is it shall pass too. But when? When?...

Silence your thoughts. Mindfulness talk.

Silence your thoughts. Mindfulness talk.

22

June, 2020

Opening the blinds.

Human life is a result of memories in the form of thoughts that are recycled in the mind over and over again.

No one is in the room yet I am never alone. No one said a single word but the noise is deafening so who is speaking not my conscious but my thoughts one leading to another. Telling me what happened and what could have happened?

I don’t want to hear it but if my mind was human banging the door, I would have stepped out of the room but that’s not an option. It’s like a broken record driving me insane but I can’t even throw it away.

The mind is designed to think, to analyse and to command an individual’s body and behaviour to act and react in a certain way which further determines his/her course of life. This is the only job it has and you cannot stop it. And if you just think about it the mind is only a body organ doing what is supposed to be done at physical and mental levels but the problem begins when thoughts steps in.

Thoughts turn this body organ into a mismanaged organization. And now it’s not a just a body organ it’s is a tool you are you are using against you instead of using for you.

So, what options do you have well, if you could just monitor and silence the thought process you can turn things around. But how?

Opening The Blinds.

Poetry Lenses

“Friends are for better and worse not for better or worse.”

Nisha

Her Self

Poetry  E-Book available At Amazon

  • Limit your social circle:

Before you freak out please understand everyone needs people as friends not friends as people in their lives. As friends are for better and for worse not for better or worse.

So how many friends you have and how many people you have in your life?

The point is more people you have more memories you have to deal with. If you have a huge social circle you will probably be surrounded with people all the time this will take away time from your friends that genuinely care about you.

Most importantly it will occupy too much space in your brain that now there is no room for yourself and for the things that really need your attention. As now you are too busy wondering about, he said, she did, I lost and what would they say?

Monitor your real-life and your screen life circle because this determines where your attention and time is going and how much growth is happening?

So, expand your circumference according to the requirement of mental growth and health. Add quality to life, not quantity because quantity is just a distraction. And the demand for quality applies to all areas of your life right from hobbies to materialistic things including major decisions of your life.

Awaits

Romantic Drama Available at Amazon

  • Cut the opinion:

The opinion is the only child of thought which it nourishes to be reasonable and it’s important to survive in this crazy world but not all the times.

Since the mind has the tendency to analyze you now have an opinion about everything which includes life, people, philosophies, history, politics, spirituality, career, food, neighbours, friends, acquaintances, strangers, T.V shows, celebrities, relationships, outfits, haircuts, nails, shoes, wrinkles, dimples, pimples and list goes on.

Did it ever occur to you that how many numbers of memories your brain has and how much time and energy plus emotions it takes to keep up with them only to result in confusion, exertion and depression?

Being human we have a strange obsession of assigning right and wrong to everything and sometimes it’s about things we have nothing to do with. I mean when people talk about somebody’s makeup and break up at a great length I get confused because there is already a lot going on in my life why should I add more anxiety in my life by wondering why such and such person is not married or failed at something especially when I don’t even know them in person?

What’s the point?

There is no easy way to say this but the truth is too many opinions and opinion about everything results in a scattered brain which doesn’t allow clear thinking. There is another post on decluttering the mind you can check.

How wonderful it would be if we were distant observers. See if you don’t want to be judged you have to stop judging others.

To have an opinion about politics, history and philosophy is a sign of progressive behaviour and it’s not optional there are things one has to speak up for. But having a judging attitude about everything on this planet is an obsession with an opinion which will ultimately ruin your mind’s capability to respond. And if you have an opinion about a particular subject practice it by bringing it into action.

I know we can’t go blind but everything doesn’t need our reaction. Things were fine when we were here and they will be fine when we won’t be around. I know sounds scary but the truth is opinion comes from attachment and it further leads to emotions with high frequencies having a positive or negative effect on our mental health so what has to be done has to be done. Sometimes we have to be a teacher commanding ourselves with authority to pull back our opinions for the peace of our mind. And don’t we have enough attachments to worry about why ask for more?

If you want to stop the chattering mind you have to silence your thoughts for which you have to limit your social circle and become a distant observer by cutting the opinion.

Author

Nisha Thakur 

"Life is a bumpy ride with few casualties that leads me to write". Hi, I am Nisha I am a poet, playwright and a blogger. Mindfulness and spiritual awareness and growth are my favourite subjects. Would you like to join the journey from madness to mindfulness with me?

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

Self-talk to boost the tired self. Never give up.

3 August, 2020Opening the blinds.You didn’t give up. You were just tired. Tired of waiting. One season that never ends. But you know every season has a timeline. So no matter how annoying and hopeless it sounds right now the truth is it shall pass too. But when? When?...